Dating Tips for Men: Keeping the Girl
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really started to get good, and could escalate with any woman very quickly, I think about all the women I slept with but couldn’t keep around.
And it’s quite sad.
So many women had the potential to be great girlfriends.
But I had my brain up my butt.
…maybe that’s a little harsh.
But it comes to TWO different problems:
First, I tried to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I’ve never fully recovered. And stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.
I just accepted who I am.
Sure, I like video games and comic books.
But…
Do you think women have cooler interests?
Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I’m into?
It’s all are the same.
What it really need is self-acceptance.
If you don’t accept yourself, women won’t accept you also.
Can you picture out a woman wanting to be your girlfriend and you don’t like yourself?
She will HATE your presence and don’t want to be around you.
Because you can’t really like a woman, if you don’t like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who do you think wants to date a loser?
It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”
Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that’s in my experience.
And I’m no exception.
The amount on how you accept yourself is the amount also on how women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.
It can be really hard to accept yourself more. Old beliefs creep in and tell you that you are not enough, that you must be more than you are.
The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.
Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn’t end after your opener, after a few dates, after “making love.” It never ends that way.
Because it is you.
You are not separated from your game.
The “game” is the degree to which you can express who you really are. Your game IS YOU.
Maybe you think “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward.” I don’t agree. That’s not you.
That is the vague you.
That is you trying to come out, but the one that stop you from expressing what you really want to express is your ego and your old mental habits.
Before I get too deep into that, I want to move on to the second reason why I couldn’t keep women around after I slept with them.
I am not aware of shaping.
Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape.
In fact, what applied to others is self-acceptance. You know what you like, and you encourage girls to be that for you.
As you can see, women are very flexible. They have a lot of things that they can expose to a guy. Men usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.
But it’s not the woman’s fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you approach her and treat her like she’s lucky you talked to her, she’ll feel that way.
Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.
We go into this deeper in our workshop. I have developed a lot of ways on how to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
Women are different from each other. Like for instance, I may want a girl to be just a partner in bed. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.
I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.
Also I think all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was not see those women again.
But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is all about finding out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the girls you want to meet, sleep with, and date.
If you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
